Tips for Family Scripture Study

March 21st, 2008  |  Published in Habits  |  3 Comments

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Family scripture study with little kids is no picnic, but my sister recently finished reading the Book of Mormon with her family. Congratulations, Beth! She even shared several tips for developing a family scripture study habit that she learned along the way.

Celebrating Easter

March 20th, 2008  |  Published in Goals, Mormonism  |  2 Comments

I was talking with a coworker today, and we seemed to agree that Easter shouldn’t be all about hiding candy in eggs and wearing our fanciest clothes to church. It’s a great time to think of Jesus Christ, his Atonement, and the Resurrection of Christ. I’m not planning on locking out the Easter Bunny from our house, but that conversation did make me think about how I can establish traditions that bring more thoughts of Jesus Christ into our family’s Easter traditions.

In Elder Richard G. Scott’s devotional at Brigham Young University this week, he highlighted the importance of learning about the Atonement. Here is part of BYU NewsNet’s recap:

“The Atonement is that essential ingredient of our Father in Heaven’s plan of happiness,” Elder Scott said, “without which that plan would have no significant meaning.”

Although this challenge applies specifically to students at BYU, we can all learn from studying about Christ’s Atonement. As part of our Easter celebration this year, my wife and I are participating in part of our church’s Easter pageant, specifically in a scene that takes place at Christ’s tomb. It’s a very moving scene, and I’m glad that it has helped us remember our Savior this Easter season.

Elder Scott then challenged students to “establish a personal plan to better understand and appreciate the incomparable, eternal, infinite consequences of the perfect fulfillment by Jesus Christ.” He testified as an Apostle of the Lord Jesus Christ that one’s understanding of the Atonement will enhance the knowledge and skills learned at this university.

Doing it Now

March 19th, 2008  |  Published in Goals, Habits  |  1 Comment

I’ve had to work on my mental mindset recently. We all often experience setbacks in accomplishing our goals, and it isn’t until we do something about it that things really start to change. I’m working to try to establish regular goals for writing, but other things like schoolwork sometimes get in the way for a day or two and derail those plans. Even though I’m on spring break right now, I haven’t been focused on getting those goals back in order like I should. So here’s my plan: get back up, start up on my goals again, and continue forward!

Until I can turn my goals into habits I may have to get up over and over again, but it’s much more important to work on my goals right now as much as I can instead of using excuses like “I’ll start doing that after I graduate” or “I’ll wait until I have some free time”. Those aren’t very good reasons to delay goals, and the end result is that we lose out on all the progress we could have gained in that time. I love this quote from Elder Bednar:

A spurt may appear to be impressive in the short run, but steadiness over time is far more effective, far less dangerous, and produces far better results. Three consecutive days of fasting ultimately may not be as spiritually effective as three successive months of appropriate fasting and worship on the designated fast Sunday. An attempt to pray one time for five hours likely will not produce the spiritual results of meaningful morning and evening prayer offered consistently over five weeks. And a single scripture-reading marathon cannot produce the spiritual impact of steady scripture study across many months.

David A. Bednar, Brigham Young University-Idaho Devotional, September 9, 2003

Finding the Right Metaphor

January 31st, 2008  |  Published in Mormonism, Spirituality, Testimony

I often learn best through metaphors. Metaphors take an concept that might be unfamiliar and dress it up like something that I am very familiar with. When we learn, we often visualize things better if they are presented in terms that we know well. When we teach, we try to explain our lessons using terminology that is familiar to our audience. Finding the right metaphor for our own learning or for our audience can unlock a deeper understanding. Here are a few examples of good metaphors that have recently been on my mind:

Tee ‘Em Up - My friend Richard was recently thinking about the way he wrote tasks on his to-do list. He wanted to set up his tasks in such a way that unfamiliar items could be easily tackled. He uses the automatic tees on a driving range to introduce this idea:

Growing up in Las Vegas, our favorite place to hit golf balls was Desert Pines. It was 30 minutes away, but it boasted a double decker driving range and automatic tees. After each hit, the tee dropped into the floor and re-emerged with a new ball. You could hit ball after ball without the pesky work of bending down to tee them. You could keep your stance and stay in the zone.

Imagine “teeing up” your tasks. Thoroughly prepare each task so the actual work of doing it is a simple, fluid stroke. Poorly prepared tasks require you to lean down. Well-prepared tasks are ripe for the hitting.

Bad: “Do taxes”
Good: “Find W2 forms and receipts in folder. Call accountant to setup appointment.”

Bad: “Christmas shopping”
Good: “Spend 10 minutes with pen and paper brainstorming what David might like for Christmas. Ask Mom for suggestions. Wait a few days to think about it. Order it online.”

Richard K. Miller - Tee ‘Em Up

Baseball and Perspective - Chelsea tells of a metaphor she heard in a talk at church that was presented by a BYU physics professor who wanted to explain “how he reconciles scientific theories with his testimony when they appear to conflict”.

 Say you got a ticket to a baseball game, but you got a seat where you could only see the pitcher and the batter. You couldn’t see the umpire, the catcher, the other fielders, or even the other bases or the scoreboard. This is a really terrible seat!

But as you watch the game, you start to notice patterns. This is like a scientific theory. You figure out that when the hitter hits the ball, he takes off running. You figure out that there must be a catcher, since the ball keeps being thrown back to the pitcher. And after a few games (you got a season pass in this awful seat), you start to figure out more technicalities, like balls and strikes. You start feeling really confident in your theory. Every time the ball is thrown, it fits into your theory of baseball.

But then one time when you’re watching the ball, there are three strikes and the runner takes off towards first base. What?! That doesn’t fit into your theory at all. So you modify your theory. You add the “third strike drop” rule that accounts for when the catcher drops the ball on a third strike, then the hitter gets to run to the bases. Now your theory works again.

But do you really understand what it is to watch baseball? Do you really understand all the rules? I’m sure you don’t. But from your terrible seat and limited perspective, you’ve done a lot to figure out what’s happening.

Scientific laws and theories are actually both theories. Newton’s Laws are called laws because that’s what HE called them. And they’ve been proven to be wrong in some situations, but they’re still called laws. Then we have Einstein’s Theory of Relativity, which has never been proven wrong but is still called a theory, because Einstein called it a theory.

So going back to the religion thing. How can someone believe in the Big Bang theory, the theory of evolution, AND Adam and Eve? Well, it all comes down to perspective. We don’t know exactly how anything worked out. The account of the creation in the Bible is very brief and doesn’t go into too much detail on HOW things were created. And from our limited standpoint, we’ve found a lot of evidence that supports the scientific theories. Should we just throw away that evidence because we can’t make it fit in what we know to be God’s truth? No. But neither should we throw away God’s truth just because we found some evidence supporting some theories that seem to contradict it.

Fishing for Chelsea: Baseball and Perspective

How to Develop a Sense of Scale - In an article on his website BetterExplained, Kalid uses metaphors to help us put things in perspective. Here are his tips for understanding big numbers using smaller numbers that are more familiar:

Instead of looking up at the “big numbers”, we can shrink them to our level. Imagine the average person makes 50k/year, and a rich guy makes 500k/year. What’s the difference?

Well, instead of visualizing having 10x your money, imagine that things cost 10 times less. A new laptop? That’ll be 150 bucks. A new porsche? Only 6,000 dollars. A really nice house? 50k. Yowza. Things are cheap when you’re rich.

To understand Bill Gates’ scale, don’t think of 50 billion dollars and 5 billion/year income — it’s just another large number. Try to imagine having things cost 100,000 times less (and 100,000 is a pretty large number).

A laptop would be a few pennies. A porsche would be about 60 cents. Your $50M mansion would be a mere 500 bucks. You could “splurge”, spend $1000, and get everything you’ve ever needed. And you’re still earning 50k/year.

It’s much more vivid than “50 billion in the bank”, eh?

BetterExplained: How to Develop a Sense of Scale

The Gospel of Jesus Christ - Prophets have always used metaphors, parables, and allegories to teach the gospel of Jesus Christ. These literary devices are so common in the Bible, Book of Mormon, and modern scripture because these books deal with topics that are not always easy to visualize. Metaphors in scripture give us the power to understand, with the help of the Holy Ghost, things of a spiritual nature. Through the power of the Holy Ghost, God can reveal us the truth of the things we learn in this way line upon line, helping us gain a personal knowledge of things of a spiritual nature.

With all of these metaphors our understanding can increase, but we must be careful that they accurately represent the truth and we interpret them in the correct way. For example, as we seek to understand spiritual matters, we should pray for the truth to be revealed to us by the Holy Ghost, because “by the power of the Holy Ghost ye may know the truth of all things”. Moroni 10:4-5.

Decluttering Your Life

January 23rd, 2008  |  Published in Habits  |  2 Comments

ClutterOne of the most rewarding activities we’ve done so far this year is to remove clutter from around our house. After our Christmas vacation, some of the stacks of mail, coupon clippings, and extra “stuff” intruded into our daily life, making it difficult to remember which bills were still due and generally preventing us from getting things done. We took advantage of our extra-long weekend to finish packing up those Christmas decorations which were still left out, organize the piles of stuff, and make things much better. It wasn’t an intensive cleaning or anything like that, just an organization of sorts. Now that everything is where it should be, we see a lot of benefits of giving everything a place:

  • Things are easy to find. If I need to go out, I have to grab my keys and my wallet. If they’re not in their usual location (I put all the things I take with me daily in one spot), there are only a few more places I might have left them.
  • It’s easy to keep track of things. Not only is it easy to find something I know I have, but when things are organized it’s easy to know what you don’t have. We have two locations for food: the pantry or other kitchen cabinets or in our food storage area. That makes it easy to see when it’s time to buy more of something.
  • Your things don’t impede your daily life. When things are put away it becomes easier to focus on specific tasks or even just relax.

Decluttering a home isn’t just a one-time weekend project, it’s something that evolves over time. As our stuff has grown, we’ve had to make decisions about where things go and how things are stored. We’ve had to come up with creative ways to store our daughter’s toys and live with temporary fixes until we can get things just how we want them, but this progress gives us a sense of accomplishment that we can build on until things are just the way we like them. This doesn’t mean that our house isn’t lived in, it just means that we try to use it so that we can fully enjoy it.

If you’d like some creative ideas on this subject, I recommend visiting or the excellent post at Zen Habits. For those trying to get the whole family involved, take a look at this Family Home Evening Lesson, Making Work Fun